Continue to be there as life gets busier
‘I’m going to keep checking in on you once/twice a week by phone/text/in person unless you tell me not to. How does that work?’
Always extend an invite even if you think they won’t come
Understand if they cancel - they may well feel worried, anxious, overwhelmed. Grief is exhausting and it is tiring and hard to pretend that you are okay. Sadly they may also feel that they are burdening those around them with their grief.
Work with their emotions
Rational responses, while well meaning, may not help during times of distress. Accept the way they feel and try to be kind and patient. Ask how they are feeling not why they are feeling.
Take steps to make social situations more comfortable
Encourage them to be social within their limits, start small like meeting in a non crowded place or hosting at their place. It’s possible that they may not feel ready to see anyone unexpected at the moment.
Be clear and certain with plans
If possible explain the the setting, who will be there and how long they are expected to stay.
Don’t expect them to confirm to any idea of ‘normal’
Allow them to grieve and act in their own way without judgement. Accept their reactions when things get tough. ‘It makes complete sense that you feel upset/anxious/uncomfortable/scared right now let me support you through this.’